“Sensuality isn’t Shameful and Your Sexuality is your Pride.“ 𝑌𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠 𝑇𝑟𝑢𝑙𝑦..
It took me years to fully accept myself as a woman who celebrates her totality. It is still a journey that is an ongoing path in which I learn more about myself and others along the way. It is my hope that I can inspire and connect to other women to see that there is nothing to be ashamed about, regardless of certain beliefs that feed only on conformity that does not cater to our own growth.
Someone reached out to me this month to voice out my thoughts on Body-Shaming…
I have always dealt myself with the issues of non-conformity amidst the ongoing occurrences of self-shaming, slut-shaming, and body-shaming happening all around me. Being comfortable with one’s own body is not a problem, especially, if you are not using it as a means to make it a commodity of some sort.
Why was it always seen as a shameful activity to wear bikinis and expressive outfits? To start off, when did the exposure of our skin become an expression of sexual connotations in itself? It should not be deemed that way. When was our skin reflective of how it affects the opposite sex? Should our skin not be deducted from our self disregarding all ideals that it is a mere portrayal of temptation? These are questions worth pondering about before resorting to such shaming.
𝑇𝑜 𝑠𝑒𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑏𝑜𝑑𝑦 𝑎𝑠 𝑎𝑛 𝑜𝑏𝑗𝑒𝑐𝑡𝑖𝑓𝑖𝑐𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛 𝑜𝑓 𝑠ℎ𝑎𝑚𝑒 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑎 ℎ𝑖𝑑𝑑𝑒𝑛 𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑖𝑡𝑦 𝑐𝑜𝑚𝑒𝑠 𝑓𝑟𝑜𝑚 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑚𝑖𝑠𝑢𝑛𝑑𝑒𝑟𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑛𝑑𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑏𝑜𝑑𝑦 𝑖𝑠 𝑖𝑛𝑑𝑖𝑠𝑐𝑟𝑒𝑒𝑡, 𝑓𝑙𝑎𝑤𝑒𝑑, 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑟𝑒𝑓𝑜𝑟𝑒, 𝐶𝐸𝑁𝑆𝑈𝑅𝐴𝐵𝐿𝐸.
𝐵𝑢𝑡 𝑜𝑛 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑐𝑜𝑛𝑡𝑟𝑎𝑟𝑦, 𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑏𝑜𝑑𝑦 𝑖𝑠 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑤𝑖𝑙𝑙 𝑎𝑙𝑤𝑎𝑦𝑠 𝑏𝑒 𝑎𝑛 𝐻𝑂𝑁𝑂𝑅 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑤𝑒 𝑠ℎ𝑜𝑢𝑙𝑑 𝑙𝑜𝑣𝑒 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑢𝑝ℎ𝑜𝑙𝑑 𝑅𝐸𝐺𝐴𝑅𝐷𝐿𝐸𝑆𝑆 𝑜𝑓 𝑆𝐼𝑍𝐸, 𝐶𝑂𝐿𝑂𝑅, 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝐼𝐷𝐸𝐴𝐿𝑆.
The Cover-yourself-because-to-do-otherwise-lessens-your-worth mentality is based on a discriminative representation of one’s own anatomy. Our body from our face to our most intimate organs have all been created with its purpose. Each is important and acceptable amidst shaming.
𝑇𝑜 𝑠𝑒𝑒 𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝐵𝑂𝐷𝑌 𝑎𝑠 𝑎𝑛 𝐸𝑀𝑃𝑂𝑊𝐸𝑅𝐼𝑁𝐺 𝑝𝑎𝑟𝑡 𝑜𝑓 𝑢𝑠 𝑤ℎ𝑖𝑙𝑒 𝑎𝑐𝑐𝑒𝑝𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑒𝑎𝑐ℎ 𝑛𝑎𝑠𝑐𝑒𝑛𝑡 𝑖𝑛𝑐ℎ 𝑜𝑓 𝑖𝑡 𝑖𝑠 𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑎 𝑠𝑖𝑛𝑓𝑢𝑙 𝑒𝑥𝑝𝑙𝑜𝑖𝑡𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛 𝑜𝑓 𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑦 𝑡𝑜𝑡𝑎𝑙𝑖𝑡𝑦…
Our body should be loved, accepted, and not hidden with shame.
𝐾𝑒𝑒𝑝𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑖𝑛 𝑠ℎ𝑎𝑝𝑒 𝑠ℎ𝑜𝑢𝑙𝑑 𝑏𝑒 𝑠𝑒𝑒𝑛 𝑎𝑠 𝑎 𝑗𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑛𝑒𝑦 𝑡𝑜𝑤𝑎𝑟𝑑𝑠 𝑜𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑎𝑙𝑙 ℎ𝑒𝑎𝑙𝑡ℎ 𝑏𝑢𝑡 𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑎𝑠 𝑎 𝑡𝑎𝑏𝑢𝑙𝑎𝑡𝑒𝑑 𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑛𝑑𝑎𝑟𝑑 𝑜𝑓 𝑏𝑒𝑎𝑢𝑡𝑦. 𝐻𝑒𝑎𝑙𝑡ℎ 𝑖𝑠 𝑏𝑒𝑎𝑢𝑡𝑦 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑛𝑑𝑎𝑟𝑑𝑠 𝑎𝑟𝑒𝑛’𝑡 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑜𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑎𝑙𝑙.
I feel healthiest when I workout for the thought of self-care and eating whole plant-based foods to feed my body. I came to the understanding that being healthy is beautiful. This leads me to the mentality that my well being is the reflection that works best for me.